Here are some ways that online dating profiles are parallel to online listings:
Both selectively use the best pictures--If you’re in a happy marriage or long term relationship, consider it a blessing. Today’s technology makes the sting of romantic rejection faster and easier than any time in human history. I understand that there’s a popular app today called Tinder that allows people to glance briefly at a photo of a single’s smiling face and then impulsively swipe right (giving that person's profile a “Yes, you’ve made it to the next elimination round”) or left, meaning the digital equivalent of “Buzz off, weirdo!”
Even if one survives the dreaded swipe test and subsequent online chatting, it’s impossible to say how many people have showed up for a first date after “meeting” someone online, only to make the shocking discovery that the pictures posted in that person’s online profile were taken ten years and/or twenty pounds ago. But I’ll bet it’s a common occurrence.
Even if the photo images used by online daters aren’t dated and disingenuous, it’s natural that eager-to-connect singles share only the photos that make them look the most attractive. You know, photos taken while they’re smiling, looking tan, relaxed and happy on the sunny deck of a cruise ship, just after yoga class and just prior to their scheduled 90 minute hot stone massage. However, if that same person caught a nasty case of norovirus on that same cruise, trust me, they didn’t eagerly document and share on Tinder, Match.com or any other dating site the images of the waxy complexion, greasy hair and sunken eyes that accompanied their uncontrollable projectile vomiting and severe, serial diarrhea.
It’s similar when it comes to marketing homes. Realtors® strive to use photos more likely to induce attraction than vomiting. I usually start out with 100 or more photos of a property. My photos are taken with a high quality Nikon DSLR camera, not a smart phone. Like movie directors, we strive to schedule shoots when sunlight is the best. The Multiple Listing Service (MLS) limits Realtors® to a maximum of 40 photos. Naturally I share the 40 photo images with the best light, focus and angles to best represent the property.
Property listing photos are current (even if the headshot of the Realtor® who posted them isn’t), so while there’s not the ten years/twenty pounds ago bait-and-switch that some disappointed daters experience, show up to tour a home on a dark, dreary day, or after the season’s first snow has fallen, and that property may not look quite as glamorous in person as it did online. Similarly, on a foggy, overcast day you may not be able to see the gorgeous views promoted in the listing.
Sometimes, the real thing looks better in person--On the other hand, a single may go on a first date and be pleasantly surprised that the prospective love of their life looks better than their pictures.
The same goes with homes. I alluded to this phenomenon in my listing for the stunning three bed, two bath home on 3.28 acres at 163 Eastman Shore Road North in Laconia (MLS# 4712030): “Despite our best efforts, photos don't do this property justice. You've got to see this gorgeous home in person to fully appreciate the tasteful quality throughout.”
The photos of this home look great. The home itself looks even better person, when you can see for yourself the quality, thoughtfulness and loving attention to detail that is evident from the tile and wide oak plank floors to the soaring exposed beam ceilings of this stunning post and beam home.
Now that I think about it, I’ll take this opportunity to note that two people who first saw the headshot that accompanies my articles prior to meeting me asked if I had recently lost weight. Trust me, if you ever saw me shoveling pasta covered in my wife’s to-die-for sauce into my mouth, you’ll know I haven’t even tried to lose weight. Apparently the camera really does add ten pounds—to my face in this case.
Both use the best written descriptions--Online daters are certain to write profile descriptions that vividly highlight attractive characteristics like stability, healthy lifestyle, humor, kindness and good nature.
However, a single looking for love may “forget” to mention that he is unemployed, lives in his mom’s basement, and will be using the public bus system to pick you to up for date number two. Or you may not discover, until it’s announced on an urgent radio alert while you’re parked on Lover’s Lane, that the pretty girl you met on Tinder has a vengeful and psychotic ex-boyfriend with a razor sharp hook for a hand, and he’s on the loose after recently escaping from institutionalization. I suppose that with people, as with properties, you can do your best to fix them or flip them.
Similarly, online listings for homes may describe that property’s best characteristics while neglecting to mention some of the perceived negatives.
For example, that listing that boasts, “great views of Paugus Bay” and “conveniently close to all the Lakes Region has to offer” may neglect to mention the traffic noise you’ll hear from your deck, and that you’ll have to play a harrowing game of human “Frogger” while dashing across two lanes of Weirs Boulevard to get in order to the waterfront during Laconia Motorcycle Week.
I’ll wrap up this cheeky article by asserting that technology is a great tool. It empowers us to save time, search 24/7, stay current, and act quickly on whatever the dating and real estate markets have to offer.
But in both online dating and internet-based home search you ultimately have to get out into the real world to discover for yourself if that person or place is one you’ll fall in love with.
Brent Metzger is a Realtor® at Roche Realty Group in Meredith. Contact him at 603-229-8322 or firstname.lastname@example.org.